Peace Love and Goodwill to All Mankind

Merry Christmas Everyone

Much love,

Nadia.

Let go of it and stick with it - Old habits are Dead

Let go of it and stick with it Old habits are dead 

The past has Passed, let it go once and for all 

Overcoming a Habit, something you really wanted to stop is something you can maintain. Forever, when you decide Old habits are dead to you.

I mean have you heard of the fella who packed up smoking for 20 years and something happened and rattled his nerves and he picked up the fags again.

Or the person who had a problem with drugs and overcame it for years and years and then suddenly started up again, seemingly out of the blue.

Tell your self, the old habits you once had are dead, they do not exist only in memory which needs to be rewired and cut permanently.

So you just decide, are you leaving the door ajar, or do you want to absolutely disconnect from it and put it behind you.

I say Old habits are dead, what say you ?
Try as you might it is futile to go back to old habits you have fully committed to overcoming .

NLP Meta Model | Lost Performative | NLP Language Pattern

NLP Meta Model |What is a Lost Performative| NLP Language Pattern

The Lost Performative NLP Language Pattern is a Distortion from the NLP Meta Model.
It is jumbled up info about the speakers Model of the World the persons specific belief, that lacks clarity and about the actual limitations in belief at this point.
It is a Value Judgement of what is an important belief to the speaker. This one is like placing high value or emphasis on what we are saying, while not including most of what we are saying.

So what the speaker is saying, is vague at best.
Which makes it super Persuasive / Hypnotic due to the ambiguity the listener needs to move into the direction they are steered into with the speakers statement.

Examples:
Thats a silly thing to say
You know we don't do that
This is not the right way to do it
Big Girls don't cry
etc ...

So we would like to know Who the person is who is doing the judging and how does the speaker knows this for sure.
In other words, you really just want to know How the person knows the information. we will restore the deleted and Distorted Info.

The speaker may not have a real answer and therefore will need to consider their own attachment to the judgement.

Belief Change:

It has been said the person with the most certainty wins, so this statement will be challenged one question at a time.
The people who is using this types of language believes them to be absolutely true and without exception.
Of course this demonstrates their own deep structured belief system.

I like to think of belief change as simply moving stacks to where you would prefer them to be.
We will separate each statement as a layer on the belief stack and examine it by beginning with the following, and following the thread until all of the missing info has been recovered.

Then we will create new more useful stacks of certainty in the favour of the speaker in a Coaching context, in a Sales or Business Context. Win / Win = For the good of all involved.
****Please note: I am not a therapist and this is why I have not spoken about any other context.

Side note on Judgement:
I have come to realize there is little or no value in judgement. It simply is just not the only way to formulate an opinion and since people are experiencing through subjective reality it does not communicate the whole story.
I prefer to act on a case by case basis.
Robert Anton Wilson summed it up best for me when he said:
I put things in probabilities and not absolutes. To find out more about Robert Anton Wilson and his support of "E Prime" in support of non judgement click here 

Never listen to other people who say you cannot do something. It may be true that they could not do it but perhaps you can!

Here is an exercise you can use to Challenge a Judgement or to Install a Judgement, like in Hypnosis.
It is because you are noticing your eyelashes getting heavy that you can just close your eyes .. now.

Challenging a Lost Performative
We can also challenge a Judgement by asking any one of the following :
According to who
Says who
Who said that
Where did you get that Info
Did somebody tell you that

By asking one of the suggested questions above, you are encouraging them to continue thinking about how they know this information.
In the questioning process the speaker will come to realize their belief can be adjusted.
These deletions of the who the Performer is usually house pockets full of pain regarding the specific areas in which the speaker is mentioning.
During conversation these will be loosened by this exercise and perhaps replaced with the news stacks.

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Hypnotic Visualization Process - Visualizing in HD | NLP is Fun

Engage your senses as you move you crank up your desires to a point of achieving Peak states in Belief and Desire. Hypnotic Visualization process has got a great response from all who have participated and was such a lot of fun to to do.
The most important thing about learning the Hypnotic Visualization Process is exactly how Connected and Fully Associated you become to your outcome.

Ever since I have been working on my own personal development and Professional Development. I have really Grown, as I am sure you are noticing in yourselves too.

I strive as much as I ask from my clients and students, which has been so helpful in helping me to design, simplify or construct new processes that help people to achieve their Outcomes.

When I created the Hypnotic Visualization Process, it was because I realized that when we were doing our mental drills as some many of the NLP Exercises call for, some people were struggling to move their internal representations to satisfactory visualizations.

Some people told me they could not visualize and truly believed that while they were already using visualizations heavily.
So I created this Class to focus on just this specific area of Representation systems.
The reviews I got from Hypnotic Visualization process can be found as an E course  here when you study this material your Visualizations will become real to you and you will connect more fully to your outcome.
This is really Important because at the same time you begin to shift your belief.

Once this happens your unconscious mind kicks in and you begin to take action doing all the things you were putting off before.

If you want it, make a change now and take advantage of this resourceful information.

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NLP Mindprogramming Audio - Expect the best | NLP is Fun

Listen to this NLP Motivation Audio Expect the Best and Jump start your Authentic Confidence and Motivation at the deepest levels of your unconscious mind.
Only Focus on what you want to get and not on the obstacles that are seemingly in your way.

If you see a Wall in front of it and move it to the side or get rid of it entirely as you bathe yourself in great feelings for Peak Experience and Peak Performance.

When you expect the best you teach your unconscious Mind to begin to expect the best in any situation you encounter,
This helps you to focus on consistently making progress in all your undertakings and Act as if everything is going to go in your favor.

Listening to this NLP motivation audio consistently will help you to program your own mind to expect the best.

Lets go Pump yourself up and Achieve your best, the more you listen the more Powered up you become.

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NLP Study Groups in Las Vegas| NLP Practitioner Training in Las Vegas 

NLP Training in Las Vegas, is always made as much fun as it possible. Which means nobody knows what will happen apart from the fact, it will be fun.

But three things are certain:
1.You will learn some Brand New Things about Neuro Linguistic Programming
2.You will enjoy yourself while doing so
3. You will be in great Company

The reason being, is that I remember what it is like when you first start out learning Neuro Linguistic programming.
I have trained many people who have already taken NLP Practitioners training with other NLP Trainers and are still not sure what they know about NLP,

I have met people who have tried their hardest to learn more about NLP and in the end gave up.
The fact remains, people are still curious about NLP and want to know how to understand it, and master it.

When you become an NLP Practitioner, you are just beginning your Journey into the deeper levels of this amazing life adventure which is not for the faint of heart.

NLP Practitioners frequently come to me for training and coaching because they just have no idea how to put everything together. I know that for many it can be overwhelming.

Richard Bandler says (and I wholeheartedly) agree the most important thing is, to "find more ways to feel better".
Remember all learning is state dependent, if you are panicking about  what you don't know, you are not focusing on what you do know.

And let's face it, you know some things, some good things .. I am sure. That is something you can truly be proud of.

Practice what you know and find somebody else who likes the idea of NLP, maybe start a blog of your own and Practice as much as you can.

Here is what people say about their experience learning Neuro Linguistic programming with me

Better still contact me and take some NLP Training or NLP coaching to put it all together.

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Nadia Harper is a Licensed Trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming with the society of NLP.Having Trained with Both Richard Bandler and John Grinder.

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People have all the Resources they need - NLP Presupposition

One of the NLP Presuppositions is People have all the resources that they need.
It is quite an interesting statement isn't it, perhaps you have your own opinion about it too.

Remember Opinions are created by your own subjective reality. This is a result of your own life experience and what has been taught to you by those you respect and have come to love as your figures of authority.
So even though your opinions are extremely important to you, let's lay them to the side for just a moment so that we can explore this new way of thinking.

Richard Bandler has said "People work very well they just run poor programs"  
These programs have to do with how a person is managing their sensory experience and their internal representations.
What they can hear
What they can see
What they Feel, because of the meaning they have created from the above.

In laymen terms these are their emotions, and the vehicles they choose can be behaviors like:
Procrastination 
Fear 
Depression 
Lack of Creativity 
Anger
A Focus on Scarcity
Looping the same problem over and over again 
Doubting themselves
Lack of Belief in anything Good
Negative attitude
Reluctance to change for the better
Lack of accountability 
Feeling sorry for themselves or feel like a victim

And so on.
So while we all have the same capability to problem solve and create new situations internally, when a person is unsuccessful in managing their emotions most of the time, the less results they will achieve externally.
Usually they will experience a sense of powerlessness.
They will feel as it they have limited choices, in just about any situation because this way of thinking becomes a habit.

Then their focus begins another loop of the same old stuff.
It is like a dog chasing her tail, which can be nice as a game but not so much as a success strategy.

Sometimes people are doing the wrong things, at the wrong time. This causes a lack of progress it is like putting a wrong region DVD on into an incompatible machine.
No matter how much you want the to see the movie, it will not work until you change either the DVD, the coding or the machine..

Perhaps you insist on getting popcorn and sitting in front of it hoping it will all work out for the best. Then you get upset because it is not working and then say "Nothing ever goes right for me" you are not acknowledging your own part in the fiasco.

That is what Richard Bandler means by saying  "People work very well they just run poor programs" 
On the other hand, programs were written to be updated and adjusted.

We have seen severely disadvantaged people:
Physically
Socioeconomically
Culturally
Mentally
Geographically
Overcome Massive Obstacles in their life.
Which of these stories, stands out to you the most ?

“...an optimistic mind-set finds dozens of possible solutions for every problem that the pessimist regards as incurable.” Robert Anton Wilson (Cosmic Trigger).

If you want to create something that you are challenging yourself with:

1. Find and example to Model and notice everything about how they are doing what they are doing.
2. Realize you have in within your neurology to change the direction of your thinking and behavior
3. Start somewhere and there is no need to Rush is, slow and steady wins the race
5. Remove the obstacles that stand in your way one at a time and consistently
6. Focus only on your End Goal, resist the temptation to tell yourself it is Hard or that you can not
7. Encourage yourself and Tell yourself your current circumstance can be changed with your Actions
8. Change the way you use your mind, feel good = good Actions = Feel better = better connection to goal
9. If one person can do it, so can you and you can also even be the first to do it, if you like
10. Create a Map from start to finish and consistently adjust it until you get there

Enjoy your life now, because Now is where we are.
We are here now, in a minute we will be somewhere else. If you live in "what if", you are missing it and will never have the chance to enjoy "Now what shall I accomplish next"  !

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NLP Language Patterns | Non Sequitur Suggestions | NLP is Fun

Lets talk about NLP Language patterns today.
Quite frequently people speak in Non Sequiturs they begin with one statement and attach another seemingly irrelevant statement as a conclusion.

This can be quite confusing and distracting to listen to. It is usually used as a detour, a decoy, the person changes the subject by using this technique and your attention must shift when you allow it to go unquestioned.

Many of today's Reality TV shows are filled with people who use these as everyday language.

If any of you work with Coaching clients or in Management of people these non Sequiturs often shine a light on a Limitation and disconnect in a persons thinking. The person is not connected to their own accountability role, due to a deficit in belief of the available resources perhaps.

On the other hand, they are wonderful to use as a pattern interrupt and a confusion induction in persuasion, covert Hypnosis and Ericksonian Hypnosis.
So let us play with them a little, or a lot ..

Here is what they sound like:

1.You can Hear the Relaxing sound of my voice so you will go into Trance faster with grace and ease
2.Lots of people have had success with NLP and you can Visualize yourself at your Best now
3.Exercise is great for the mind because you begin to notice yourself being even more productive now
4.Practice makes perfect so you can notice becoming even more confident
5.Everyone likes chocolate and having a good night of sleep helps a person wake up early in the morning

Example One:
There are three parts to this sentence:
First part of sentence 1.
"You can Hear the Relaxing sound of my voice"

Then a bridge in the middle
Second part of sentence 1.
"So you will" 

The third part is a totally unrelated end statement
End part of sentence 1.
"Go into Trance faster with grace and ease"

Example Two:
First part of sentence 2
"Lots of people have had success with NLP"

Second part of sentence 2
 "and you can"

End part of sentence 2
"Visualize yourself at your Best now "

Ok, I wonder if you are getting the hang of it now because then you will become more flexible in your own communication.

Have fun practicing these Non Sequitur Suggestions

Tip:
The two statements do not need to have any relationship to each other
It implies that the end result is a conclusion of the first statement
It does not need to make sense
It bypasses the critical faculty
The person goes inside their head to search for understanding of your statement = Hypnosis
Think in terms of rhythm when putting them together.

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NLP External Auditory Representation System | NLP is Fun

People who prefer to use their hearing for internal Processing tend to indicate or even point towards their ears.
Their ears are attached and they are attached to their ears.
So much so that while listening their eyes will often shift from side to side.

As in Eye accessing cues going to Auditory Construct = Listen to (Right ) and Auditory Recall = Remembered Info (Left).
The sounds they experience are super important to them which means so are your words and Tonality.
So make sure you are following their own preferred style of communication by listening to when they breathe and speak at their own volume etc.

Their Primary Focus is in this area of processing, in order to understand and be understood faster is to use this Modality as a lead in your communication.

Also they have a quite dense way of communicating frequently in long winded explanations as opposed to direct short and sweet answers.

It could be said they enjoy the sound of their own words, on the outside too.
They also spend a great deal of time listening to their own words on the inside of their head.

If it seems they are inside more than Outside then they will be considered Internal Auditory Digital.
who are influenced by what is going on inside their head more than people who are Auditory and Externally Influenced.

External Auditory are very good at listening and they are looking for the whole story, an extremely detailed explanation, that answers all of their questions in your communication.

The NLP Communication Model 

They are interested in knowing how the whole process works and in what order they can expect it.
Then will do an internal Transderivational search (do you remember the NLP Communication Model ) which you will witness (if you are paying attention) In their accessing cues.

Frequently you will find their breathing responding to the Rhythm of the speakers tonality as they begin to process what they just heard.
This shows them "Trying it on"
If you want them to learn something new it is a good idea to play up to their hearing capabilities for them to be more "In tune" to what you are saying.

Remember if there is a great deal of noise competing with the Speaker, these listeners will become overwhelmed and distracted, so make sure you are in a place where they can hear you clearly.

You may already know that Auditory People are interested in Reading, Learning, Music, and Understanding new concepts.
They may always have a set of headphones on because sound quality means quality all the way around to them.
They are responsive in debates and have their own ideas with which they will want to compare new information to understand it perfectly.

Of course you will also use the Auditory Predicates to use their preferred words that describe their experience.You can re use the ones they have already picked if you like.

If you find that this reminds you of yourself, you can use this simple exercise to change the meaning in experiences you have had in the past that rubbed you the wrong way.
Once you get the hang of it you can use it every time because it is super easy to do.

Here is How to change the Movie Music

If you think about How a Movie Anchors you to the Music which heightens your viewing pleasure, you can do something similar in your own head.

1. Pick a Memory that you were extremely unhappy about.
a)Think about it, while noticing all images and sounds play it till then end as if it is a Movie.
b) Now Take Note of how you Feel after experiencing it all.

2. Pick a Song that is Upbeat (perhaps from a happy movie you liked) or your favorite Dance Tune, or a Hilarious Cartoon for example.
***Please note the new music has the power to change your state in a big way.
I like this one and the best part about it, is that I cannot keep still when I hear it.
Music that changes Physiology has a Massive amount of power for instant State change.
Remember pick the one you prefer.

 3.Now Crank it up at Top Volume so much so that You are feeling pretty Great and then, play the movie again all the way till the end of the song.

4. If you want to, do it as many times as you like, because I bet you your feelings will change each time.
a) Play it until you only have a connection to the Happy Tune
b) Turn the music off when you feel ready and rewind the movie to the beginning and notice how you feel
c) If that tune doesn't work, pick another tune one that you want to play with, maybe Rocky, (Gonna Fly now) which is another empowering favorite of mine.

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The Mind and Body Are One System | NLP is Fun

One of the NLP Presuppositions is that the Mind and Body Operate from one system.
I have mentioned before that your Physiology affects your Moods.
This is a perfect example of this.

They cannot Not affect each other they are undeniably connected. perhaps though we have not yet given this enough attention.
Giving this some some attention today will help you to understand just how important it is to all aspects of perception.

Mind Body = Nervous system the Neuro in Neuro Linguistic Programming.
The maximum impact in our beliefs is created once we connect (Associate) to our sensory experience our Neurology.

Our unconscious mind is driven by our Neurology, we respond from the fused synapses in our own hard wiring.
Our automatic roads to behaviors that have held your attention for long periods of time, perhaps decades.

This further explains why a Placebo will work giving a person the Placebo effect.
Mind affects Medicine and wellness, take a look at some of the extra ordinary work Deepak Chopra and Bruce Lipton are doing in this Area.

Mind affects Heart in situations of Love, Like, Hate, Happy, Sad these perceptions are inter changeable with physiological responses.

Mind affects perceptions of Possibility in situations like  Dating, Interviews, Sales, Relationships, Money and what a person believes it is more likely to have.

All of these perceptions are inter changeable with Physiological responses.

The Self Love Process
Meditation
Fear
Happiness
Surprise
Excitement
Self Hypnosis
Breath
Heart rate
Connection to self
Connection to new Idea
Physical Movement
All change perceptions in the mind too

If this is true then, our beliefs are far more important that we ever believed before, aren't they?
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Which way are you Going | NLP is Fun

Movement Changes Everything doesn't it ?

If you are not moving, you are not making progress, because nothing is changing.

When you move your Body, you change your state

You could be moving a little, or moving a lot and if you break a sweat, you will really begin to feel a sense of accomplishment too.
But even slow and steady has proven to win the race.

I felt a great sense of accomplishment today because I challenged myself to go Hiking after my morning work out and it felt great.

Movement is Action and Action is Movement.

I felt good because I went further than usual, and I could feel the stretch.

Make your Movements and Actions to all go in the direction of your wants.

I felt good because I knew I was conditioning my body and Mind in the area of better Health and well being.

This is one of my main goals at the moment and I am totally congruent about it and committed to it, in NLP Talk we call that Fully Associated.

Plus I was with my son, so I got to spend quality time with him while he was doing the same.

Moving in the wrong direction is still movement so It can create a change but perhaps more of the stuff you do not want.

When you feel unsure and have not made a commitment to what you are going to do, you may move in the opposite direction of what you want.

Sometimes without even realizing it, maybe because you are dissociated = Unplugged from what you really want.

Perhaps because you do not really believe in it yet.

Your Unconscious mind is in charge of the direction you move in, so make sure you are supercharged and plugged into what you have committed to.

Step into it and act as if your every step is moving you towards it, this is much more important that what you are hoping to change or avoid.

You want to make sure all of your attention is plugged in to what you want.

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Immerse yourself in NLP

Learning Neuro Linguistic Programming is a Process, which means it is an ongoing habit. The things that you already know well, you can perfect them.

The things that you have not yet learned can be understood and embraced by your unconscious mind congruently.

The best way to learn NLP is to begin to "Try it On" this means experiencing for yourself before thinking about applying the intervention with another person.

As  you begin to learn a new pattern for example, you can wonder how many ways in which you can use it. If you were to use it as a filter for a whole week, let's say you would get tons more mileage out of it.

Sometimes when I meet people who are interested in learning NLP, they want to have known it all Yesterday!
While I do understand NLP is the sexiest tool set I know, to know it is to experience it and really more than anything to live it.

It really is a spirit, a way of processing experiences, and a different way of responding to things, a new way of believing and thinking in terms of unlimited possibilities in every single area of your life.

This will not happen over night, although if you persist in practicing and applying it will happen and will only change your whole life experience for the better in  every way imaginable.

I encourage you to be kind with yourself in learning NLP, take your time and immerse yourself in it. Wrap yourself up in a cozy blanket of NLP and Hypnosis and wash your bad habits away with persistent application.

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Jack of all trades or Master of None | NLP is Fun

Lets Talk about Goal setting 

One of the many great things about NLP is that Neuro Linguistic programming goes to great lengths to help a person become accurate in their Goal setting.

For example like when we create Well formed outcomes  which I wrote about in detail some time ago.

What I have found with most people is the habit of being too abstract in what they want. 

One of the reasons I think this happens, is because they have not yet connected their conscious and unconscious mind as one.

Be Congruent in your Goal setting.

They do not yet have an internal alignment or in other words an unconscious congruent belief, that their goal is attainable.

In the meantime they find themselves focusing on what they do not want, and the impact of not having what they want.

For that reason I wrote 10 Steps to congruent Goal achieving which is an abstract way of getting into the state of Daydreaming and then noticing and connecting to smaller chunks.

The majority of this process is Self Hypnosis which is a stress free, relaxed unconscious way.

This has been really helpful to do before attempting to drill down to NLP Well Formed outcomes.

Be Precise in your Outcomes:

I have found that Precise Goal setting is great to do in that order.

The Key to become more resilient in maintaining the action needed to succeed in any Goal is:

a) knowing exactly why you have this Goal, why it is important  

b) what is the driving force of ongoing internal motivation of your actions.

This will make all of the difference, on your journey of implementation.

So connect to the very reason that your Goal is so important to you, there is a great chance that your Goal is connected at some level to one or more of your Values even at an identity level.

Refine what you Mean:

For example in the work that I do, Treating the Whole professional from the ground level up.
It didn't just come to me in a hap hazard way, I went though a process of finding out what exactly and specifically what it was that I wanted to focus on and Specialize in.
Here is how I discovered this, I began by:

1) Understand my own experience. 

2) A insatiable desire to improve myself, 

3) After making progress I wanted to share my discoveries and help others in a generalized way

4) Then I wanted to Improve how I communicated with people to perfect the process of helping them

5) Then I wanted to learn how to Influence other people to be motivated enough to create the change

6) Then I wanted to experiment with new things I had discovered by doing my work

7) Then I wanted to turn my work into particular systems I could share with other people

8) Then I wanted to make my systems holistic, simple, plus efficient

9) Then I realized the people I mostly liked helping were professional people who were interested in helping other people.

10) Then I wanted to just Focus on helping the professional service people who shared  similar values to me.

So as you can tell, it is a constant refining process isn't it, to decide what is Important and why and then to continue shaving bits off.

Specialize in what you love doing

When you first learn NLP, there is so much you can do you may be tempted to try to Fix everything and everyone.
Instead Decide who you enjoy working with the most and consider specializing with that particular group of people. Get specific about who they are and why you enjoy working with them.

My Story 

When I very first started doing NLP my ideas were quite different, than they are today. They have evolved into using NLP at a more unconscious level because NLP really is a Spirit or an attitude of cooperation. 

I design new processes and create strategies that speak to the specific work I do. With NLP there is so much I can do, and to this day I am beyond grateful for the technology I have under my belt .

By doing this instead of being a "jack of all trades", I can become the Master of the skills that I like to use in my work.
Because as I continue to learn and study daily. I improve in my specific area, which actually is an ongoing thing.

I find that this creates Better Sales people, Better Leaders, Better Business People, Better Executives, Better Influencers, Better Coaches, Better Presenters etc.

These are the people I find myself working with the most and since I always work with them, I perfectly understand their experience.

This helps me to stay energized and focused to do what I love, and plugged in to my most creative natural abilities and talents.

Because of this, I have been able to develop People who are more comfortable in their own skin, more confident, with better self esteem, Self worth, more adaptable and excellent communicators.

Who are Self motivated, High achievers that expect the best for themselves and challenge themselves for excellence every single day.

Specifically because they are able to achieve more consistent resourceful States for a longer duration of time.

Goal setting Summary:

To recap here is what I suggested.

1) 10 steps to congruent Goal Achieving

2) Well Formed Outcomes

3) Find your Compelling motivation (based on your Values)

4) Fine tune the Real Outcome

5) Shave the bits off that don't apply to you 

6) Focus on being a Master instead of a Jack of all trades

7) Continue to learn every single day 

8) Teach and develop other people with your knowledge

9) Create a more efficient process

10) Continue to refine and improve

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Just Show up Anyway | NLP is Fun

When all the chips are down and the bottom has fallen out of your world, Now is the time to Show up Anyway.
After all if there is nothing to loose because it has all been lost, just Show up Anyway 

Even if
The dog Ate your Home work
Your Ceiling fell in
Your wife ran off with the milkman
Your children don't want to speak to you
Your Furry baby may have been put down
You lost your job
You Lost your house
Learn how to draw a line in the ground Get back in the Saddle and Show up anyway.
You may Be
Hurt
Angry
Upset
Embarrassed
Sad
Mad
Frustrated
But just show up anyway

Then you will
Heal
Rebuild
Move Forward
Make progress
Recreate
Get some Help
Feel better
Build up your power
Start something brand new
Never. Ever. Ever. give up. instead Just Show up Anyway.

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How much has having that problem cost you so far | NLP is Fun

Lets talk a little bit about Problems.

We all have them, and we have learned that it is not so much about the problem, that is the problem it is more about how you are responding to your problem, that could be the real problem.

For example do you believe that you are at Cause or Effect of the problem

At Cause = I can change it myself (I may need additional resources and yet it is possible) I will be accountable for designing my life.

At Effect = I cannot change it, it is beyond my own personal influence (I will wait until it blows over) in the meantime I will place the blame on people and things.

Your Beliefs are influencing what you think and that is influencing your behavior.

Beliefs = Thoughts = Feelings = Actions = Behavior

In the long run, is that really working for you in the way you had hoped for ?

Your Beliefs can be changed at any time, just by your decision to do something about it.

Once of the best things to do is to reverse engineer your results and find out if you think your action (in a certain behavior) supported your outcome.

If you don't think it did then you can begin to learn why you did not necessarily put your best foot forward.

Lots of people do great things most of the time, some time and then may also talk about ways in which they self sabotage themselves regularly.

The more choice and flexibility we live by the greater chance we have of Winning in any situation.

Something that Richard Bandler likes to ask is "How much Time and money have you spent on that problem"

So lets do this as a homework assignment:

Get a piece of paper and ask yourself:

What has having this problem cost me so far in actual money

What has having this problem cost me so far in Time and Energy 

How much more will this problem cost me in the next:

6 months

12 Months

2 years

5 years 

If you like you can begin to experience it on your timeline since you like having this problem and enjoy the full impact of being fully associated to the problem for a change.

Ok then, so what are you going to do about it ?

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Just How much more Sales success can you Stand | NLP is Fun

Just how much more success can you stand ?
If I taught you for example, the skills that Politicians and high ranking officers know about Influence and Persuasion, would that make you feel 1000 % more empowered.
And more comfortable in your own skin, when you were taking on new business.

How much more would this help you find your own true voice and communicate elegantly, and stand up for yourself against tricky communicators that know how to trip you up with your own words and out negotiate you.
If you are like me you operate from a place or integrity offering a wonderfully valuable service for a great exchange.
When you  understand your own high value you create a win /win proposition.

And What if (for example) you became really good at making more sales and influencing more people, would that cause a problem ?

And what if as a result of it, your money and your lifestyle improved Dramatically, would that be ok ?
What if because of it,you found the confidence to ask for what you really wanted, and you stopped selling yourself short and giving the farm away.
What if you found out that your services, were valuable and important.
And you remembered how much time and effort you had spent on developing your expertise and just needed to know how to share it with other people, and get a fair exchange for your extraordinary Talent.

And what if, you knew about Sales, and because you had some good days, and some bad days found out how you could create a system, that resulted in all good selling days no matter what.
What if this was a whole lot more simple than you thought after taking this knowledge packed Sales Training when you invest in the proper tools to do the job efficiently.

Well what will happen if you do
And what will happen if you don't
And what wont happen if you do 
And what wont happen if you don't

Truthfully, there is not a shortage of Sales or Buyers, but their may be a shortage of the appropriate knowledge and even the best knowledge activation.

Remember timing is everything, you cannot become an extraordinarily influential communicator by just reading a book (if that were the case I would just email you my 40 page manual) and wish you luck.

How do you know this training is the best for you ...
Curious ... Learn more about using NLP in Sales and start having more success in your selling, influencing and Coaching than you can imagine.

This is a Live Training and  you will be thrilled you learned how to integrate these real NLP Sales techniques into your Sales Process.

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How to Resolve Internal Conflict with NLP | NLP is Fun

There are many ways to resolve Internal Conflict. which most people experience at some stage or another. Things like Stress and Anxiety can cause loops of internal Conflict that lead to procrastination, indecision and even Panic Attacks, Phobias and Trauma.

These Loops keep a person stuck and unable to move forward asking for action can cause them to shut down all together.
When a person is in a stuck state of Internal Conflict this is a great way to begin to do quick work on a big chunk of Internal mayhem.

I like this because it goes straight to shuffling the Neurology and creating a pattern interrupt immediately. The beauty of this, is that it unravels the construction of the behavior which is Magic Dust to anyone in this type of agony. At the Least, this will loosen the connection to the problem, at the best it will solve the problem so that a person can gain a new vantage point and resume normal functioning.

 Everyone is different and the secondary gain and position of your participant are all contributing factors to your success.
So if you are doing this with somebody else make sure they want to resolve the issue enough for it to be compelling for them.

Magic Dust 

This will begin the shift as they can turn their attention to imagine normal functioning, you can ask them what will you do once we have resolved this that you couldn't do before (and have them do a sensory walk through beforehand).

So here is how to get it done.
1. Explain what The Conflict is
This begins to clarify and process any clump of unconnected generalizations which by Transderivational search you have made into a mental Tumbleweed and an unnecessarily complicated problem.

2. Remember a Time when you experienced it and take a Third position as Observer.
Begin to experience a dissociated overview of how the conflict plays out. Perceptual Position 3.
This means leaving all opinions out and no judgement about what you did or felt.

3. Now Experience it through your sensory experience and Perceptions (Position 1) Step into it and fully engage all V.A.K.O.G sensory experience. 
VAKOG stands for Visual = Seeing , Auditory = Hearing , Kinesthetic = Feeling, Olfactory = Smelling, Gustatory = Tasting all of your sensory experience which helps to make it more real. begin to record your discoveries be really thorough.

4. Now Experience it through the alternate or opposing position (Position 2) and step into it and engage V.A.K.O.G sensory experience.
VAKOG stands for Visual = Seeing , Auditory = Hearing , Kinesthetic = Feeling, Olfactory = Smelling, Gustatory = Tasting all of your sensory experience which helps to make it more real. begin to record your discoveries be really thorough.

5. Find out the positive Intentions 
Check both positions one at a time while making notes about the distinctions.

6. Take a Higher (Meta) Position 
Act as if  you are a neutral observer flying above position 1 and 2 continue to examine for further learning and perceptions.
Observe the common threads in overall intention.

7. Begin to understand the overall agenda of what you have learned
Now you can and consider the possibilities of how it is able to cooperate as a separate whole position.

8. Begin to align this new position with physiology 
You can use both hands to bring it in to your heart. Take time out to have your physiology welcome it and integrate this piece as a bridge to cooperation internally.

9. Experience a sense of wholeness
Deep Breathe x 3 and find purpose in your new alignment also future pace for any previous conflict and aim for wholeness in decisive action.

10. Ecology Check 
Make sure all of your Ecology /Values are honored during this process.

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Internal Rapport creates External Rapport | NLP is Fun

When you feel great about yourself others like to be around you.

When you are uncomfortable at any level, people feel uncomfortable around you even when they do not know why.
Sometimes people who are nervous, send out incongruent signals that make others feel bad.
In other words having Rapport with other people, works really well once you have Rapport within yourself.

What you are thinking, affects what you are transmitting in your communication.
The Pictures you see in your expectations should be of hopeful positive situations instead of things that scare you.

The words you speak inside your head, should support whatever it is you want. If not, you are going against yourself at an unconscious level and it will affect your results. The same thing about the stories you tell about your experience and your life.
You can begin to Visualize and speak with personal power, no matter what has happened.

It doesn't become a habit until you have done it consistently so to begin with, it may feel like allot, and after a couple of months it will change what you can believe about yourself and your life.
That is pretty amazing, isn't it.

Keep going, sometimes the Big Chunk is just showing up, once you are there anything is possible.
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Self love Changes Everything | The Self Love Process | NLP is Fun

What if you spent some time, every single day thinking about loving yourself.
Does that seem like something you would like to do.

Just taking time out to begin to love yourself and thinking about what exactly you love about you.
And then turning it into a habit, a Habit Of loving you with your own focused attention at least once, every single day.
This would really help you to connect to yourself Mind, Body, Soul and this Alignment connects your Neurology to your Physiology and feels amazing.

Read Ground yourself in Love Here
Read The Self love process by Nadia Harper here

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NLP is Fun Online NLP Practice Group

What is an NLP Practice group anyway 
NLP is Fun in Las Vegas is a NLP Practice group where newcomers to NLP, students of NLP beginners and advanced, get together and learn brand new patterns of NLP and Hypnosis. Traditionally it has been in Las Vegas.

What can I expect if I come to one 
Our subjects vary each month and we meet weekly for Hypnosis or NLP interchangeably. This year I am going to expand what we do offline in Las Vegas to Online webinars so everyone internationally can have a chance to join in all of the fun. Some of our practicers have been with us for many, many years and we have developed wonderful relationships that will probably last forever more.

I don't live in Las Vegas how can I come 
There is just so much I would like to share with you too and now that I have been doing this for a while and have been asked for it so many times, it seems silly not to, and so I have decided the time is now.

Here are the things I am going to start offering online as well as offline.
NLP Practice Group
NLP Coaching groups
Mastermind groups.

And other types of online learning and experiencing opportunities for those of you who are interested.

Our Next Las Vegas practice group
In the meantime, if you are out and about in the old LV (Las Vegas) then come out on Monday night March 11th 7pm - 9pm to NLP Practice group where we will be Overcoming internal Conflict with NLP .
Remember if you want to be successful in life and business, you must learn how to Master your own Mind first and there is nothing better than lashings of NLP to help you along your way.
By the way if you would like to know more about me then click here no need to be shy.

When will you have the next online Event 
Watch this space we will have our first one this month.

In other news:
What has NLP helped you to Master recently ?

Gone but Never Forgotten

Well it is official, I am back after a much needed change.
I have been writing this blog for a while now I began in 2009 and last year decided to take a little break to spend some time figuring out some other bits I was interested in.
I am happy to say I now am back and ready to talk more about NLP and continue to make it fun and easy for everyone to benefit from.
Since I last spoke to you here are some things that happened

I began an offline NLP Coaching group, and I will be creating an online one soon.

I have been doing quite a bit of Training on overcoming Resistant negative programming with NLP

Pictures from 7 Steps to Infinite Possibilities

I have been helping people create Goals for them they initially didn't believe were possible

I started Two Offline Mastermind Groups that use NLP and Think and Grow Rich 

I have been enjoying Las Vegas, Having Fun and Traveling and on top of all of that I have written lots of my own new programs and have been teaching those too.

And sadly I have said Goodbye to one of my most Inspiring mentors who will be in my heart and mind forever more.

RIP Nelson Mandela Gone but never forgotten.

So what is your news ?